When “Coping” With Uncertainty is the Best We Can Do

When “Coping” With Uncertainty is the Best We Can Do

A series of events led me back to one of the many books I have on my shelf and I knew I simply had to share a portion of what I found with you. I have come to accept that although I'm generally easy-going, I have "control issues" and I happen to know I am not alone. Author Elizabeth Lesser writes: "After all of these years of being broken open by loss and love and life itself, I still resist the river of change. Whether it is something going on in my personal life, or at work, or in the world, I still instinctually tighten my grip when things feel out of my control." from┬áBroken Open What follows is an elegant, brief essay where she quotes another of my favorite…
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How Your Inner Critic Feeds Your Fears

How Your Inner Critic Feeds Your Fears

I love this quote because it calls me to think critically, to be aware of stories that our inner critic whispers in our ears. (I always think of the old Bugs Bunny cartoons, with an Angel on one shoulder and a Devil on the other when Bugs was trying to make a decision.) In my last post, I wrote about Ursula, the villain in The Little Mermaid. You understand, of course, that one of the villains' superpowers is to manipulate us through FEAR. Reminding us of all the bad things that can happen. Today, I'm sharing this from a favorite handout I often give to clients when we are talking about anxiety and fears. Understanding these concepts is so empowering and freeing. Personally, I re-visit them often. (Especially when Ursula…
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